Comments on: Breaking Up While Traveling

By: Nora

Nora — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 20:03:47 +0000

In reply to Ryan K Biddulph. Hey Ryan, I now firmly believe that one of the acid tests for the sticking power of a relationship, is traveling together. Glad you and Kelli have stood the test of time. :-)

By: Ryan K Biddulph

Ryan K Biddulph — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 15:02:59 +0000

Hi Nora,

Reading this now, 11 years after the post. I am sorry you had to experience that. Kelli and I began traveling in 2011. Been circling the globe for a decade. We had known each other for 4 years prior but goodness, you never get to know if you are a match until you circle the globe. So many fears and preferences to face and work out as a couple, or, to own and to lead both of you in a different direction.

Ryan

By: Nora

Nora — Sat, 14 Dec 2019 15:18:38 +0000

In reply to Janne.

Hi Janne,
I’m so sorry you’re having a difficult time in your relationship. I would be quite upset if my partner told me to reflect on myself and then went to sleep! Doesn’t sound like much of a partnership. I hope you two can either work it out peacefully, or go your separate ways to find more compatible partners. Either way….it sucks. Take care.

By: Janne

Janne — Fri, 13 Dec 2019 17:47:42 +0000

Hi Nora, I’m reading this while having a quarrel with my bf on our first overseas trip in 8 years. He said that I was being too clingy, behaving like my mother, throwing tantrums and that I wanted things my own ways (which clearly for this, I don’t think so). And now, he wants a break up. We still have 3 days before our trip ends and I’m reflecting on myself (he insisted that I reflect on myself while he’s fast asleep).

By: Nora

Nora — Thu, 14 Feb 2019 18:00:22 +0000

In reply to Santiago. Hi Santiago - Well, I'm glad that you are still friends, and that your friendship is strong enough for you two to continue to travel together. Enjoy!

By: Santiago

Santiago — Thu, 14 Feb 2019 01:59:12 +0000

In reply to Nora. Well I'm gonna keep traveling with her for two more months till she goes back to Berlin, she still wants me to go there, but well I'll see what a happen, we are okay togheter, because we still care for each other, I mean I still love her, but I'm not gonna beg for love or anything I tried to fix this and didn't work, she is decided so I can't change that, maybe when she leaves New Zealand she will miss me or maybe not, idk anything can happen. For now I'm cool and calm and we are good friends

By: Nora

Nora — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 23:41:25 +0000

In reply to Santiago. Hola Santiago, I am sorry that your relationship is not working out. I know couples who have broken up and continued to travel together; for me, I've never experienced it, and I think it would be awkward. But it really depends on the both of you and your friendship. What do you want to do?

By: Santiago

Santiago — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 19:55:59 +0000

I met my girlfriend in New Zealand, she is 19 and from Germany and I’m 30 from Uruguay, our relationship was so good, so perfect, till we move to a hostel for 3 weeks with 2 of my best friends, we had our own room with TV, and she is too shy, so she never spoke with other people and my friends they only speak Spanish, so she felt alone and start to cry saying that we didn’t had enough time together, and privacy anymore, so I spend more time with her and started to have more dates, also we hate our job (apple thining) so we start to be at a really bad mood, and start to fight with each other, also she was scared that when we move to Germany to live together what could happen if our relationship can’t work out, so I told her our problem is just this job, the stress of it, the bad mood, and the fact that we spend 24hrs together, and she start to said couples live togheter and still have a good relationship… so well we started a new trip after those 3 horrible weeks and everything went back to normal, all the love, the laughs, hugs, sex everything was perfect for a couple weeks, till one day I woke up in bad mood, she asked me if she made something bad to me and i say I’m just in a bad mood, next day she was in a bad mood, and the third day she ignored me all day, no hugs, no kisses, nothing, the 4th day she told me that she lost her feelings for me and I was shocked because I thought we just had a bad couple of days, we talk about what is going to happen with us, because we already had 3 more weeks togheter we paid hostels already, and we rent a car with one of her friends that joined our trip.

For me I’m good right now but there are some moments every day that I just want to be with her back again, back to our relationship because I’m still in love of her. She also told me that she is really sure of her decision right now, but we she want me to continue traveling with her till she goes back to Berlin in April, and that she will be happy if I go to Germany after New Zealand, she also told me that she thought about continuing our relationship in Berlin because we can have a normal relationship, but that she right now don’t want that, and I say that this can work in Germany because is different, here we are all the time togheter, 24/7 the stress, and everything is bad for us because of that and if we try it in her country can be different because we can just see each other a few hours per week like normal people… but I don’t think she want to continue like a couple right now, that she is happy just been friends for now, and I don’t know if I should continue traveling with her after 3 weeks till she go back home, or if I should go to another city alone.

Sorry for my English, it is not perfect.

By: Nora

Nora — Mon, 09 Jan 2017 16:39:29 +0000

In reply to Karen.

Hi Karen,
I’m sorry you had a bad experience. It can happen – and at least you weren’t on the other side of the world together! (small blessings)

By: Karen

Karen — Sun, 08 Jan 2017 01:38:48 +0000

My girlfriend and I planned a road trip, just this Christmas. We had been dating for a little over a year. And was planning a two and half week trip, from southern ca to Vancouver Washington. Her sister lives in Washington, and we weregoing stop on the way,and stay with friends in difference places along the way. We had travelled together to baha the month before for a week and got along fine. Also we would see each other every weekend fom fri to Monday in an RV that we had in the mountains. And there was no phone reception and no tv. So I thought we would get along fine. And I think she thought the same.
So off we went. It started really well. We went to Yosemite for two days. Great. Then drove to cambria to see a friend and her girlfriend. My girlfriend had just lost her ex lover buisness partner. And she was back on the booze. Which now I see may have triggered my girlfriend. Because all three of us did an intervention. And my girlfriend I thought came across as not herself and pouring her booze down the drain and threaten to call 911 if she got in a car to get more. I was a little shocked.
But we left had a nice couple of days in Carmel ca then we drove to Redding. While we were in Carmel. She found a motel for $50 a night. We didn’t have wi fi so I couldn’t research the place. But I did say I think we should pay more. Must be bad for that price. She said it will be fine. Well it wasn’t. It looked really seedy and I told her I don’t think I want to stay here. But she had paid on line. And she said we will sleep and go.
When we woke up. She discovered that her car had been Robbed. So my leather jacket got stole with other items of hers. I was mad at her. And was yelling. She sat stony faced and apologized. We made up and she bought me another jacket. I started to feel inside this was going to be the trip from hell. I told her lets go back. But she wanted to see her sister. So I gave in.
When we got to Washington to visit her sister, her sister seemed annoyed that we were in love. And would make fun. She would make fun of my accent too. ( I’m English) I complain Ed in private to my girlfriend. But she said that’s the way she is. That’s when things started really going down hill. I wanted to leave she didn’t . So we stayed over Christmas. Then her sister wanted us to stay longer. And I told her sister. No I want to leave. That’s when I took my girlfriend aside and threate her. That I would tell her sister all the nasty things that she says about her. But won’t say them to her face. That’s when she dumped me. Told her sister. And for a couple of hours the sister seemed to delight in that fact. And we left. She totally shows a side I never knew about her. She detached and would not speak to me for two days. Refused to discuss it. I responded really badly to her mentally cruelty with verbal abuse between cry fits. While she sat like a stone. Really shocked me. Haven’t spoken to her since.