Comments on: The Art of Communication, Relationships, and the Trappings of Nomadic Living https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/ Traveling full-time in a financially sustainable way Wed, 19 Jun 2024 11:25:04 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: theprofessionalhobo https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247513 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:49:01 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247513 @Maria – Disconnect for a week or two every month?! Eek! I get palpitations just thinking about being offline that long! I’m not sure I could manage that much time offline, on a regular basis. (Not and actually earn enough money to travel).

Ah….long distance love. Been there done that. Absence does make the heart grow fonder – but it’s not any easier! 🙂

]]> By: nomadic translator https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247474 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 16:15:56 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247474 the reality is disturbing. I think we should thrive to have at least one face-to-face relationship with * someone*! otherwise, we truly feel empty inside. Of course, we don’t realize this until we actually interact with someone in person… it clicks, that piece that was missing, *just clicks*

even in the online world, nomadic lifestyle we are in, we should try hard to disconnect for a week or two every month. Otherwise, we will lose an important part of ourselves.

I’m probably not making any sense now haha, I just can’t stop thinking about my lover after reading this (long distance relationship… ay ay)

– Maria Alexandra

]]> By: theprofessionalhobo https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247468 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 14:24:37 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247468 In reply to BobH.

@Bob – Ah yes….if we cannot love ourselves, then how can we love others (and allow them to love us)?

When I said “relationship” in the bit you quoted, I even meant the broader definition of “relationship”….meaning any relationships, romantic or otherwise.
But I think that your observations stand true for all types of relationships (the sex bit notwithstanding)!

]]> By: BobH https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247424 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 21:24:20 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247424 Great questions – certainly easy access world wide to the Internet and the shift towards social media has changed how people communicate – that is a wonderful benefit when traveling – It is a concern when I hear stories like the one you described of people arguing along people texting instead of talking – But what caused me to pause was the question about “The nature of communication is changing dramatically, so maybe then too, should our definition of relationships.” I’m defining relationship as a long term commitment to another, not a temporary situation of just having a good time. Those are fun too, but not really a relationship – just a convenient and pleasant time together.

Maybe there is a generation gap about this, but I believe relationship is about people wanting to be loved and accepted for who they are. I believe it is a fundamental human need that text, online, or social media can’t replace. I think many people believe sex, passion, shared activities, intellectual exchange, and a whole host of other activities and values deliver this acceptance or love. Online communication can support many of those (haven’t figured the sex one yet but when they do, look out!). Then when they don’t happen like they used to or can’t be sustained, it’s time to move on to find the next dream lover.

When we keep looking, expecting, projecting, or attaching to these values that we feel embody love, we will never “find” it. What we want is the feeling of acceptance for who I am – all my wonderfulness and my human frailties that I exhibit on a regular basis. Getting to that state of acceptance takes trust and honest communication – a willingness and discipline to be vulnerable and honest about our selves. I believe that only happens from being physically together not online.

]]> By: theprofessionalhobo https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247286 Fri, 12 Oct 2012 15:08:00 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247286 In reply to Laurel.

Laurel – I wonder how much more enticing our online worlds are when the world outside our door is foreign. As travelers, of course we love to discover new places and people, but there’s no denying that it’s exhausting always being on your toes and absorbing new information, and in the end we seek what’s comfortable. That’s why expats often like to stick together too…

]]> By: theprofessionalhobo https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247285 Fri, 12 Oct 2012 15:04:06 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247285 In reply to Baron’s.

Ha ha – Thanks Berge! It’s something that I’ve been brewing – and discussing with folks around the world – for a while! Glad you feel I hit the nail on the head. Success! 🙂

]]> By: theprofessionalhobo https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247284 Fri, 12 Oct 2012 15:01:07 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247284 In reply to Fab.

Thanks for your input, Fab. The physical just can’t be denied…

]]> By: Laurel https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247279 Fri, 12 Oct 2012 14:00:32 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247279 I’m based in Munich but am guilty of this as well. I spend hours with my online friends and then realize that I haven’t met one of my in person friends for a while. It’s nice to connect virtually, but nothing beats face to face, especially when you need a hug.

]]> By: Baron's https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247272 Fri, 12 Oct 2012 11:47:25 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247272 Ma tres chere Nora,
You have certainly opened Pandora’s box with this article.
You and I should join forces and write the next best seller ever…
I do not wissh to disclose details online for obvious reasons….but let me tell you,,,you did hit the nail on its head…and I’m glad I’m neither the nail nor its head….
Berge

]]> By: Fab https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/the-art-of-communication-relationships-and-the-trappings-of-nomadic-living/#comment-247260 Fri, 12 Oct 2012 06:32:48 +0000 https://www.theprofessionalhobo.com/?p=4151#comment-247260 Hi Nora,

nice article!

As far as:

“People meet and fall in love online regularly, but I don’t think it’s until they meet in person that it truly becomes a romance.

Or am I old fashioned?”

You are simply normal from this point of view!!

Physical appearance and chemical attraction are only tested when two persons meet each other in reality and not in the virtual online world!!

In other words:

If you haven’t had sex with her/him (preferably twice, thrice or more), you mean nothing to her/him and she/he should mean nothing to you!!

In other further words:

If you haven’t made love with her/him (preferably twice, thrice or more), you mean nothing to her/him and she/he should mean nothing to you!!

Obviously, this is true in the short mid term, in the long term other things come into the relationship!!

In conclusion, from this point of view ( kind of relationships between opposite sex ) online world is one thing, offline world is another thing which is totally different!!

All the best!

Fab

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