Comments on: Destiny is a Direction

By: theprofessionalhobo

theprofessionalhobo — Sat, 22 Jun 2013 14:44:09 +0000

Woohoo – Do it, Marie! 🙂
(I like your quantum mechanics analogy – bang on)!

By: Marie (aka bigtravelnut)

Marie (aka bigtravelnut) — Sat, 22 Jun 2013 01:57:30 +0000

I agree with everything in this post. People who believe in an immutable destiny drive me bananas! They’re fatalistic and often negative. Fortunately I don’t know many. Instead of “a destiny”, I see the future as a set of possibilities with different probabilities assigned to them (depending on your personality traits, experience, past choices, etc). Sort of like quantum mechanics! ha ha ha. You can choose to do anything, but it’s more likely that you’ll do some things rather than others based on who you are.

I started getting off the “prefab life” pattern after the “getting a good job” phase, and after I started to travel! Skipped the marriage. Bought a small condo. And prioritized travel over career. The career part has now come to a natural end. What’s next? I’m thinking a semi-nomadic life and a blog. 🙂

By: theprofessionalhobo

theprofessionalhobo — Fri, 21 Jun 2013 13:16:42 +0000

In reply to Shandra White Harriss. Thanks, Shandra! Sometimes I look back on some of my posts and I'm surprised by my own writing (did I really write that? wow!)! But it was a timely reminder for me too; and I'll be slurping on a dose of my own medecine. :-)

By: Shandra White Harriss

Shandra White Harriss — Fri, 21 Jun 2013 11:55:19 +0000

This is so well said. Perfectly timed as a reminder for me, as you reposted to FB yesterday. Going to be quoting you in an upcoming blog post…or two. 🙂 Thanks.

By: David DeWitt

David DeWitt — Sun, 25 Nov 2012 00:26:44 +0000

Maholo, Nora!

By: theprofessionalhobo

theprofessionalhobo — Sat, 24 Nov 2012 23:33:14 +0000

In reply to David DeWitt.

Thank you, David, for such well put food for thought! I agree with you entirely. Our lives are a sum of the choices we make – which are influenced by our cultures, environments, and our parents. And no matter the advice, our parents never want to do us wrong…we all do the best we can given the cards we’ve been dealt (and the choices we continue to make every day).
Thank you!

By: David DeWitt

David DeWitt — Sat, 24 Nov 2012 19:41:55 +0000

Nora! ABout parents – and about the generation gap, and perceived destiny. I have now been over that crossroads from young adult to parent (and beyond) and what I have learned in part is that destiny in the final sum of all of your choices and also the choices of other people and events or conditions over which you may have some control or none at all; the result of these elements are usually taken to a conclusion and people will say, it was his destiny to ride that tram to his death last Friday, after all of his protestations that he was afraid of heights! Well, not really … it was a choice made against better judgement, a toss of the dice, and a misadventure but not destiny. It is simply ironic, viewed by others who are forced to make a judgement. John Kennedy’s destiny was not to be shot in Dallas it just happened because others made choices. I was a young adult in the sixties. Beatles, drugs, anti-war days, raging against the machine, and the Man, was normal for us – we looked at our parents and thought they knew exactly ZERO about life, our lives, in particular … why did they push us down a road toward mediocrity? A rubber stamped way of life? Education, Career, Marriage, Stability, Security, UGH! We wanted to matter, to have adventure, to explore inner consciousness … to live recklessly, and challenge Authority, and we did … then we became PARENTS because babies happen, and we might have found a line of work we enjoyed – oh, crap, we became doctors and layers and, damn it, cops! We met someone, we got married – and there is this little mini-me staring up at me with pure love in its eyes … so you go into protect and defend mode, you go into provider mode and you go into advice mode and what is that advice? The same shit you heard from your parents! This is all so general but you get the idea! In fact, life is very, very different from person to person in the same culture because we all have been influenced by our parents, by our environments, by our handicaps, and gifts, – life can be a bowl of cherries or a bowl of pits; attitude is everything. Action or the lack of it is everything. But I do not believe in Destiny, it is a false conclusion based on the observations of others. There is a saying here in Hawaii: If can, can, if can’t, can’t – and it could be taken to also mean if you believe you can, you can, if you believe you can’t, you can’t – so if you believe you can travel the world on a shoestring, you can find a way to do it – if you think you can’t do it, you won’t try! It’s not your destiny to travel the world or not to travel the world, it is your choice!

By: Randy

Randy — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 17:08:44 +0000

What a great post, glad I found this blog. I may be coming up on some big changes so this is good stuff!

Randy

By: Keith Louttit

Keith Louttit — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 23:13:56 +0000

Well, my heart is under a bit of strain with six stents implanted in the past year alone, I’m and expecting a coronary bypass in a few months, but my soul is highly gladdened by your compassionate decision…

Regarding the expected new coloring of your aura, I will have my Nitro tablets ready when I see the new you! Disregarding whatever your choice of color you use, it is that infectious smile of yours that is too endearing…

Keith

By: theprofessionalhobo

theprofessionalhobo — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 18:14:19 +0000

@Keith – Alright…you’re not cut off…..read your little heart out! 🙂

As for the redder tint….it was a recent temp dye job that was supposed to be purple, and ended up pink. It’s almost washed out now, soon to be replaced with a much more savoury deep red/purple. Fingers crossed.